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Letting Go of Expectations

7/5/2011

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Having a child who experiences the world outside of what we would consider typical can be a powerfully transformative experience if we let it be.  It has forced me to release my expectations about how things should be, what is right and why things need to be a certain way. I discovered that if I insisted on holding on to the "shoulds", they quickly became cages of despair and sadness that trapped my thinking and more importantly, my ability to truly appreciate my son for all his greatness.
    For example, many of you would know that I am an avid reader, as is Jen so my expectation was that Barron would naturally gravitate towards books.  To this date, Barron has no interest in them - he doesn't like to be read to, play with the books or pretend to read.  While it is my sincere hope that he develops a love of reading because of the avenues it will open up for him, if I get hung up on this issue and focus on what he won't do, I might miss the fact that he's really quite happy and joyous on his own.
    I've become aware of how much of what we do is in an effort to be happy and my son's already there!  By releasing my expectations of what should be and instead enjoying what is, I get to join my son in his happiness.
   
5 Comments
Meghan
7/5/2011 11:44:47 pm

Peter, I am so happy you decided to blog about your amazing son, Barron, and the story of your life with him. I look forward to reading much more about him and about your journey!

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Brenda Macdonald
7/6/2011 12:21:09 am

Enjoyed reading the blog. Expectations for any child can be overwhelming so this is a lesson for everyone! Thanks for sharing

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Cindy Knight link
7/6/2011 06:21:11 am

Peter: I am happy that Barron is showing improvement. It will add to the enjoyment you and Jen can share with him.

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Carla
7/11/2011 02:08:25 pm

Peter, I loved reading your honesty and vulnerability. I felt like I was reading my own thoughts and feelings. It is a beautiful gift to be able to realize these tough lessons now while Barron is young then many years from now or never. Thank you for your openness. I look forward to reading more.

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Shelley Facciorusso
8/19/2011 02:42:43 am

Another of Gods Angels sent to teach us , humility, love and acceptance.
Life's lessons in the form of an Angel on earth
God Bless
Shelley

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